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Choosing a Marriage Partner

18: And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

19: And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature that was the name thereof.

20: And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him.

21: And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof;

22: And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man.

23: And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.

In the beginning of God’s creations, It was absolutely God’s concern for Adam to find a spouse meet for him for the purpose of companionship and procreation, whereof God blessed them saying; be fruitful, multiply and replenish the earth and subdue it (Genesis1:28).

Before Adam had made a perfect prayer to God for a companion, God said that it is not good for man to stay alone in the garden but He would make an help meet for him, then God made all the fowls, and the beasts to appear before Adam that he may name them and choose a suitable companion from them, therefore there came the serpent, Godzilla, chimpanzee, gorilla, monkey, dragon, cow, donkey, cat, both insects and birds and animals of every kind, each of these creatures were in pairs of male and female so that Adam could not find a companion from them yet neither was any in his likeness. For that cause God gave Adam a deep sleep and took one of his ribs and covered it with flesh and formed a woman out of Adam’s bones. When Adam rose from his sleep, with great amazement he said, this is now born of my bones and flesh of my flesh. Finally Adam found a suitable companion of his very likeness from the Lord.

It should be noted that before any man ever thinks about finding a companion, he must first understand himself, know the purpose of his calling, lay down the vision of his life, and lay the foundation of it, then he can choose a bride meet for him who will help him to establish and sustain his life vision. A bride should be the bone of your own bones, therefore; a human shall marry a human, a cow shall get a cow and a donkey shall find a fellow donkey and on a strong note a Christian should marry a fellow Christian. God put before Adam all the animals that he might choose a help but found none because he was a true human not a beast, you must chose a bride of your own character, ‘’birds of the same feathers flock together’’. Trust me, you will always find her of who you are, ‘’show me your company and I tell you who you are’’.

If you want to marry a virtuous woman, be a valiant man, if you want a real faithful Christian woman, first become one and flee from fornication and adultery and from all sexual perversion, remember that ‘’people are mirrors they reflect one another’’, your spouse shall always be what you are and what you make her to be reflecting your own character and integrity. ‘’You shall reap what you sow’’, don’t expect to have a faithful bride when you are unfaithful, neither will you find a respectful and godly bride when you are sexually immoral and a winebibber.

Finding a marriage companion is one of the most crucial decisions that a man takes in his life. It is a defining moment which has a lasting impact upon someone’s life and therefore such a decision should be taken with absolute cautiousness, keenness and without rush. It should not be taken out of excitement, pressure, or basing on temporary feelings but rather considering traits which will allow you to stay with that person all your life until death do you part for the Lord hates Putting away, (Malachi 2:16).

Anyone choosing a marriage partner should focus on aspects that are beyond beauty and the general outside appearance, for these are deceitful (Proverbs 31:30), character and behavior should be the Pivot points while taking such a decision, good morals and Christian character should be the priority.. A perfect maiden to be considered for marriage is a virtuous woman according to Proverbs31:10-31.

As a Christian, it’s important while seeking a marriage partner to look for one from within the Christian fraternity; this saves one from strange worldly women. A God fearing woman should be the first and only priority to be considered. (Proverbs 12:4).

It is crucial for one to seek God’s direction while choosing a marriage partner. Isaac’s story portrays the perfect example of leaning on God to choose a marriage partner, we realize that the servant Abraham sent out to find a wife for Isaac asked for God’s direction and signs to prove the perfect woman he had to take for his Master’s son (Genesis 24:1-67) and they all came to pass. God is able to guide us if we trust him and believe him to help us find a good spouse, for “he is the same today, yesterday and forever(Hebrews 13:8). It is God who found Eve for Adam, a help meet for him, (Genesis 2:18). We should therefore rely on the Lord, for since his plans towards us are good, (Jeremiah 29:11), He cannot lead us to make wrong choices of spouses.

The word of God says, “Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and Obtains favor of the LORD” (Proverbs 18:22), and again the word says, in (Hebrews 13:2); “Marriage is honourable in all, and a bed Undefiled; but whoremongers and adulterers God will Judge”. It should be noted that this favor Comes with finding a right person, and for God to honor one’s marriage, it should be one which is holy before him.

Having known what to look out for, as individuals we ought to bear the true love of Christ within us while we choose our spouses. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 is a measuring yard for this kind of love, for it says; Love is patient and Kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful: 6; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing but rejoices with the truth. 7; Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

I encourage everyone to ask God to give them such a heart to love their chosen brides, for in so doing, all sorts of Marriage failures will have been dealt with. Let’s love our spouses even as God loved us when we were still sinners and sent us a savior in Christ Jesus. Remember to take into account all God’s instruction while making your choice and surely your marriage will be a success and you will receive all the blessings from the author of marriages who is God.



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